My Advice: Holding Grudges

This blog is dedicated to a very special person..and she knows exactly who she is...I would like to let my readers know that I'm never the type of person to hold grudges on others..personally, I don't like it, I can't stand it because it truly bothers me..and what I mean by that is that I wouldn't be able to get through my day to day life if things aren't flowing properly, it really distracts me and that is why I'm bothered...I'm the type of person that doesn't get mad at anybody longterm wise, I do get mad, upset and pissed at people, but only for a short period of time, which is about a few hours or a few days...life is short, and we should live it to the fullest..and holding grudges and getting mad at others is just a waste of time, when you can just solve the issues and problems right away.

A grudge is defined as "resentment strong enough to justify retaliation". Everyone has, at some time or other, been hurt deeply by someone close. Bitterness about the person or situation leads to a grudge. Personal injustice ignites resentment in heart, which turns into a grudge. Since grudge is a form of resentment, a person who bears grudge may become revengeful. Instead of focusing on what he/she needs to solve a problem, for instance, he/she may spend most of his/her time thinking of ways to get back at whom he/she resents. This can be dangerous for there is a possibility of injuries.

A grudge pours its corrosive bitterness into us, arrogating our entire being. Soon the door will be open for envy, malice, jealousy, bitterness, gossip, and slander to come and visit. We will stop at nothing to even the score against the other party. Holding a grudge will only devour you from inside out, eventually turning you into a bitter person. All this happens because you refuse to forgive the one who hurt you. The price to pay is too high.

The best way to deal with a grudge is to stop thinking about the grudge itself and focus on accomplishing important goals. We will gain satisfaction and self-worth from accomplishing these goals. Conversely, the worst possible way to deal with a grudge would be to dwell on it. If we push ahead and create a satisfying life, we will feel less frustrated and less angry. It will take our mind off your grudge. We will be more willing to take responsibility for our actions, and our need to blame will dissipate. We will not want to taint our happiness by being ungracious. In essence, getting ahead in our lives will come to be more important than getting even. Hate begets hate. Happiness begets happiness.

For the people who hold grudges, I think it is realy silly and pointless..you should try to see the good in people and look at all the wonderful things that are happening in life..because trust me you will miss out if you keep having bitterness and hate...Stop Holding Grudges People!


Friends who held grudges: Heidi and Lauren

Reference: http://www.charminghealth.com/applicability/grudge.htm