See, that guy she's with? He isn't the best looking dude, he might not have what you would consider "swag", he might not be the ideal boyfriend she thought she would end up with, but you know what? There's still something about him that she loves. She knows cuter guys, people tell her she can do better, but to her, he has the best personality she knows, he's there for her when she needs someone and nobody quite understands her like he does. She doesn't need everyone to think he's all that, cause he's more than good enough for her.

For the Girls

Okay this blog is for all the girls who are having problems with their relationships because they're not happy. I was going to name this blog "For my girls" because a lot of my girls talk to me about their relationships and I'm not going to name any names lol but I decided that this can go not only for my own girls but for every girl out there who's having issues such as, number 1: they're not perfectly happy and number 2: they can't let him go.

This specific topic comes second nature to me because I was like that!!! or I kind of am still like that :S...I was in a few bad relations in the past, and obviously I wasn't happy with myself, I didn't like how he treated me, I would stress so much about it that it affected my relationships with my friends, family and school work. I believe the main reasons why I didn't want to end it was because I didn't want to me alone (I'll just stay with him until I find a better man one day), I thought that he could change and I had thoughts about our good times and images of us being happy in the future.

When you hold on to those reasons why you don't want to end it, then it can only mean you don't have respect for yourself!!! Bottom line. As much as you want to deny it, it's very true-you have no self respect. Take it from me because I used to be like this and I was in a much worse situation that only my close girls know. Because I didn't want to be alone, I found it much easier to break up with my ex and move on when I found another man! Yes rebounds and jump offs are there to make things easier but it's not suppose to be like that!! A lot of my girls who aren't happy with their men only stay until they find someone else who's better, because if a couple were perfectly happy with each other and found everything they were looking for, they don't need to look for another person.

I understand nobody wants to be alone but to not be alone for a few months or maybe years means you depend solely on others and again, lack of self respect. Girls, if you have to cry it out for a few nights or maybe weeks then go ahead and cry it out! Let your girls comfort you, you have to have good friends there after a break up or else you'll go crazy and pick up that phone lol Trust me, a few months of pain from that break up is better than having to spend a few more years or maybe the rest of your life with a man that you're not happy with. Remember "You have to be happy to make someone else be happy" Once you realize these things you'll feel much better, you gain more respect for yourself, you grow and become more independent and be in a healthy relationship in your next one :)

xoxo

Just reflecting...

So it was just the other day when I got a feeling that I haven't had in such a long time...just to make a long story short, I don't really know the exact word of those different types of emotions, maybe you can all tell me what it is at the end :S? Okay so I was a having a conversation with this guy that I've known for a few years now, sure we did stuff and for sure I like him a lot and I truly care about him genuinely (more than most guys I dated). Despite all of that, I still dated other guys, because yes I'm young and I'm not officially taken! lol I told him what I was doing and admitted to everything and as a "player" You're suppose to play the game right, don't tell them anything, and deny, deny, deny! etc. But I made a decision that I would tell him, because I really cared about him, and from his expressions it seemed like he was bothered or I may have hurt him in a way :S? and I felt really bad and so guilty!!!

After telling him that a week prior to our conversation the other day, he also admitted something to me, and it was how he had a girlfriend for the past year and he's just getting over her now! First of all, I was so shocked, I really had to compose myself and try not to show any facial expressions. He figured since I became honest, he would go ahead and say something as well :S! Well I obviously didn't like the news, because when we were seeing each other-he was still not over her. He continued to talk about her for about half an hour -_- and he really loved her.

Can you imagine that feeling when you put someone on the top of your list of all the other guys, and to find out you're not in his! Or the feeling of being with that person and thinking they are truly happy but really they're thinking of their ex? And you weren't the one to help him get over her?! and I've been on this game for almost a couple years now, and I believe I knew everything there is to know about guys, but after this-it just made it seem like I know nothing : I cared about him way too much, and I shouldn't have. Well, that was that, now I know, and I can move on with my life (always gotta think positive!).

p.s. Yes I'm a jealous person and can't settle with someone that's not putting me first-and you shouldn't either!

Some days are just a waste of make up...and shit my make up from Lancome ain't cheap LOL