For the Girls

Okay this blog is for all the girls who are having problems with their relationships because they're not happy. I was going to name this blog "For my girls" because a lot of my girls talk to me about their relationships and I'm not going to name any names lol but I decided that this can go not only for my own girls but for every girl out there who's having issues such as, number 1: they're not perfectly happy and number 2: they can't let him go.

This specific topic comes second nature to me because I was like that!!! or I kind of am still like that :S...I was in a few bad relations in the past, and obviously I wasn't happy with myself, I didn't like how he treated me, I would stress so much about it that it affected my relationships with my friends, family and school work. I believe the main reasons why I didn't want to end it was because I didn't want to me alone (I'll just stay with him until I find a better man one day), I thought that he could change and I had thoughts about our good times and images of us being happy in the future.

When you hold on to those reasons why you don't want to end it, then it can only mean you don't have respect for yourself!!! Bottom line. As much as you want to deny it, it's very true-you have no self respect. Take it from me because I used to be like this and I was in a much worse situation that only my close girls know. Because I didn't want to be alone, I found it much easier to break up with my ex and move on when I found another man! Yes rebounds and jump offs are there to make things easier but it's not suppose to be like that!! A lot of my girls who aren't happy with their men only stay until they find someone else who's better, because if a couple were perfectly happy with each other and found everything they were looking for, they don't need to look for another person.

I understand nobody wants to be alone but to not be alone for a few months or maybe years means you depend solely on others and again, lack of self respect. Girls, if you have to cry it out for a few nights or maybe weeks then go ahead and cry it out! Let your girls comfort you, you have to have good friends there after a break up or else you'll go crazy and pick up that phone lol Trust me, a few months of pain from that break up is better than having to spend a few more years or maybe the rest of your life with a man that you're not happy with. Remember "You have to be happy to make someone else be happy" Once you realize these things you'll feel much better, you gain more respect for yourself, you grow and become more independent and be in a healthy relationship in your next one :)

xoxo